all, I gave up ...
after five months of trying to find a little bit normal tandem partner for learning Italian, I must admit that no-che-ho-shenki failed. I do not know what was going on ... or whom? Maybe this thing in me?? I want too much? Or conversely, like too little and not that? :)
I registered at two sites that position themselves as portals for the study languages. At one of them have the option of searching tandem partner, other created specifically to find partners for learning languages.
Keenly aware that young people (ie aged 35-40 years. yes, now many men consider themselves to be more th-th and 40 years old and ready for adventure, especially the Italians), mostly want to meet and no serious language lessons here it will not go, I filtered candidates and wrote a couple of requests .
Responses came from a girl 24 years old, studying Russian, and men 43 years of Venice. The girl was still windy, as it should be at this age. Russian she had a very low level, I spent a lot of time to fix and sometimes could not even understand what she meant. She began to write less, then there was the story of "a broken computer, which broke down twice, and the third time, apparently broke it. boring, perhaps, was with me.
From our man, "a novel in letters" lasted for nothing. Writing me a couple of short email, pledges of interest, with the final phrase "I'll write more later," and "Recently I had a lot of work," he disappeared from the skyline.
After the first failure, I decided not to write to anyone, and wait passively. Request comes in many, exclusively on men . But more often I first look at their profile realized that "it will not burn out": an individual who has "Friend" means a hundred girls, or that almost not engaged in the tongue (seen in profile, which describes the progress of learning), patchy set of Turks, Indians, etc. who wish to communicate in English (Here Russian or German, which I offered in return, I ask you?) Or a user with an almost empty profile, writing an email, consisting of pairs of words such as "hello", "how are you." In general, the animal did not go to the catcher.
And once I gave the fluff and hooked . Came an email with an innocent question, I do not know if I have other such portals. Struck up a correspondence. I thought it was - a girl, and willingly answered. At one point I got a "control" question. As if by chance "she" was asked the reason why I moved to Moscow and that she was interested, because it has a familiar pair of bilinguals who also emigrated. Without feeling dirty trick, said everything as in the spirit. Before the guy (as I later realized) realized that there is nothing to catch him more and he ejected.
There was a couple of queries from completely, it would seem appropriate people. One Italian, forty, married, works at the German-Italian company, the language needed for the job. Level of knowledge like me, that is, change accounted for in the same volume. And again, twenty five - a couple of email and the silence at the end of the tube ... I think here the fact that we were each other uninteresting. He talked about himself, I was more silent. Well, to hell with it.
came across young boys (ie 24-27 years) living in Germany. One even from Frankfurt. Upon learning that the city I was not a stranger, and I go there, he was inspirational, began asking about interests, etc. Then he made a fatal mistake by sending me an article on the Italian pro boxing bout between Klitschko and somebody else, offering to discuss (for the development of my Italian). Here I have already sent the boy. Became clear why he was looking for a girl on the Internet, with such an idiot in my life no one to speak for longer than five minutes will not be.
Another, a guy 26 years old, passed to practice in Airbus in Hamburg. I immediately unsubscribed, he had better communicate with native speaker, this time, and hinted that I kind of old for him (immediately realizing that it is again "blank shot") is two. The hint did not work. I have openly said that I have a small child, time is not so much, etc. The boy insisted, claiming that "all nor how much we all go around the obstacles. " "Hosspydya" I thought, and decided to give a chance. After the first serious email (please tell him how he got to Airbus), written in Italian and German, I did not wait for an answer. Crushed intellect or what? Ie he realized that not Senka hat and he will not pull this level?
And here's one recent example, my last hope . Go tell my crystal shattered dream. But it all began so well! Respond to a request directly to the forehead: I do not know, I do not know, because have all been disappointed, etc. And he told me, Duc I do not know what's going on with people, to stop responding! Hooray, I think, fellow-sufferer! But then again, so gently begin to recognize how serious a person intent, how long he is prepared to pay a "tuition." Then discuss how to learn. I confess that I mainly offer, and he agreed, at the same time but did not seem unwilling boot. His level of German downright pleased with (my Italian a little worse, although the vocabulary is more), he replied, in effect, but not dry. In general, I'm in the mood for a serious work and send the text for discussion. I suggested to start with German (to please him, yet rarely come across such motivated people). And then ... right no greeting, no answer. I'm still not quite believing in such a bummer, asked if he could very busy, can I do something wrong .. ehh ... "my life - tin!»
After all these "non-private stories of love," I began to wonder, why all attempts turned into a failure? Maybe I'm not so behaved? Too crushed? It seems not. Level is too high and seemed timid partners? Why, because in the latter case, on the contrary it (but a small difference, which is not would create problems.) Someone obviously was not enough motivation in this case, it is clear. But there were other people in the seriousness of one's intentions, I never doubted ... In general, an alien soul - darkness. Just as a lot of darkness to my lot got.
And it would be sad, unless one exception . Will not hide the fact that all the same good fortune smiled at me once. Almost at the beginning of this epic, I surf the filters found Italians are over forty, who in the profile was only one woman in friends and in the photo, he looked pretty intelligently. I wrote him a short email, humbly asking how he feels and whether it makes sense on this portal to communicate, and then I'm a newbie, I know nothing. And, of happiness, he was a teacher of Italian who likes to edit the work of others, and which he teaches German. He offered me his help. All this time we just kept sending each other texts in check (sometimes with a rather long pause, because it does not always happened mood to write), almost no talking to other topics. It seems that both sides are satisfied, but I do not know how long ... (ugh, ugh, ugh)
And yet, question to the audience: you have a positive experience learning the language on the Internet through communication?
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